Being likable



we all know that looking good is one thing but it required certain effort depending how much you put into it...the most good looking people who are bless and born with it still requires effort like exercising...maintaining diet ... having balance lifestyle etc....

however thats is like 1/10 of what makes a person attractive 

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people succumb to the mistaken belief that being likeable comes from natural, unteachable traits that belong only to a lucky few—the good looking, the fiercely social, and the incredibly talented. It’s easy to fall prey to this misconception. In reality, being likeable is under your control, and it’s a matter of emotional intelligence (EQ). (Travis Bradberry )


  • They are Genuine
Being genuine and honest is essential to being likeable. No one likes a fake. People gravitate toward those who are genuine because they know they can trust them. It is difficult to like someone when you don’t know who they really are and how they really feel.
  • listen and ask question
listening is part of communication....and ask question but avoid asking a lot of questions. People like to know you’re listening, and something as simple as a clarification question shows that not only are you listening, you also care about what they’re saying. You’ll be surprised how much respect and appreciation you gain just by asking questions.
  • They dont seek attention
People are averse to those who are desperate for attention. You don’t need to develop a big, extroverted personality to be likeable. Simply being friendly and considerate is all you need to win people over.
  • They are non-Judgemental
I have seen people who have opinion and they tend to be againts certain things but without making an effort to even understand or even try . yes everyone is entitiled in their own opinion but when they rant about it and make it very personal or even discrimenate and influence other you created what we call ' politic' in office or life...
  • being humble
being recognized for an accomplishment, shift the focus to all the people who worked hard to help you get there. This may sound cliché, but if it’s genuine, the fact that you pay attention to others and appreciate their help will show that you’re humble
  • Using positive language
Becoming cognizant of your gestures, expressions, and tone of voice (and making certain they’re positive) will draw people to you like ants to a picnic. Using an enthusiastic tone, uncrossing your arms, maintaining eye contact, and leaning towards the person who’s speaking are all forms of positive body language that high-EQ people use to draw others in. Positive body language can make all the difference in a conversation.
  • balance 
being outspoken and sensitive....being protective and yet still trust him/her ....everything requires balance ....too one sided makes people felt "uncomfotable"  it shows that you are in order and it shows u take control over emotion and you have your ideology and values that you believe

and all this makes you as a person a unique individual who somehow become likable .....


yet again this is just my opinion....what do you think make a person likable?

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